Monday, May 5, 2014

Do You Really Matter? (You bet you do!)

A universal need for all humans is to know, they matter. People wanna know, do you see me? Do you hear me? Do I matter to you?

We all have those days where we question what we are doing, why we are here, and if we make a difference.

I remember reading somewhere that if you have a pulse, you have a purpose. If you are reading this right now, you matter. IF you think you don't, a higher power does. You are worthy because you are here. You don't have to do anything to claim your worth. That was YOURS the minute you entered this world. What happened as you grew up, you learned fear from the world, your closest family and friends and the messages our achievement based society sends.

When you are feeling low, have you ever had someone say "I love you. You are so loved."Or when you are feeling bad about your appearance and someone says, " you are beautiful, you look great," etc. Do you really really believe it? Often times, not. It's wonderful to hear and it feels good but does that feeling last. Not usually. So, we think that we need to hear these things outside of ourselves to feel better, but is that really true? Until you can connect to Spirit or a higher power and to the child within will your feelings about your worth profoundly shift. You have to establish an connection to Spirit and with yourself to know your true worth. Then the comments you hear from loved ones and friends and the relationships you have the work that you do are just icing on the cake of what you already know to be true. The relationship to Spirit and with your heart MUST COME FIRST. Once these relationships are cultivated, you will attract more things to that make you feel less lonely, more abundance, healthier relationships, and a life you love living.

Try these tools this week and get let me know in the comments how they are working out for you! Take action for the next five days. Remember, nothings works until you do. (If you need extra coaching in this area, contact me here.)

1. Create a connection to your heart and to a higher power. In a seated position with hands facing upward, close your eyes and breath deeply yet gently. (It is preferable to do this in the morning before the world needs your light, i.e., kids, job, significant other). Imagine a white light entering the top of your head and flowing from the crown throughout your body until it reaches your toes. You are bringing the goodness of the Universe to you energetically. Let this limitless, divine light of unconditional love fill your entire body. Give yourself permission to receive this light. Let the light illuminate the darkness you are feeling. Let it wash over the parts of your body that ache or that are tired. Feel light in the Light. After all, you are made from and of this Light. Sit for a few minutes basking n this light.

2. Now that you have established a connection to the power that create you , it's time to nurture you. Become your own mother. Become your best friend. Cultivate MEGA compassion and acceptance of your self. Now, in a seated position with your eyes closed, visualize your five year old self. Picture her in your mind's eye. Accept her. Develop a relationship with her. Hold a picture in your mind's eye of the 5 year old little girl, feel her presence or hear her. Visualize this little girl walking up to you. Look at her little face, her hands, her sweet smile. Pull her on your lap and hug her and tell her you are sorry for not loving her, accepting her, acknowledging her. Hold her like the way you want to be loved. It's time to parent yourself. Ask her, what is that you need to have me tell her, to feel loved? Tell this child, you have permission to be seen, heard and you matter. Her answers may be something like" talk to me, play with me for a little bit, hold me tight." Do that for her. Cry if you need to. Laugh if you must. Nurture the inner child within you. EVERYONE has one inside of their hearts that wants to be unconditionally loved and cared for.

3. After you have completed these two exercises, find a picture of your five year old self and keep it in a sacred space or a place you will most see it. As you see her throughout the day, honor her, send her love and compassion, and energetic hugs.

4. Now for the rest of the day, go be of service. Share your gifts with the world. Sprinkle in checking with yourself throughout the day. Take 5 minute breaks of solitude by listening to music, meditating, spending time in nature, etc. And give the best you you can give that day. You will feel the appreciation from others. And if its so happens that you don't, know in your heart you are doing a good job and be at peace that you are doing the best job you can do.

This week, try these tools out and please let me know in the comments below how this is working out for you. Do you feel a shift? Has some darkness been lifted? Has some healing taken place?

Love and Light,