Friday, March 28, 2014

Surrender, Stillness, and Showing Up

I remember riding the school bus every morning to school. I can sometimes still here Mrs. Shoch honking her bus horn in the direction of our garage so my sisters and I could come running out on any given morning. The bus community was filled with the cool kids sitting in the back seats, the bad kid(s) sitting in the front seats, and me somewhere sitting in between not knowing really where I fit in. This seemed to be an idea that stayed with me most of my childhood.

As a mother of two, the whole idea of fitting in seems to be a waste of time. When you allow yourself to be who you are, you find your tribe. You find your inner circle and your like minded comrades. But who are you really? Our purpose is to extend love, be love, and open our hearts with compassion. When you are a kid, you ARE being love. You love what you love unapologetically until...that one day someone tells "you shouldn't love that, its not cool, or fun, or right,etc." Some stay on their Paths and others do as their wise elders tell them and do as they are told.

Fitting in is living inauthentic life. It feels so good to be who you are.

I love Howard Stern. I could listen to him all day. Do you think he fits in? Do you think by me telling you that, I fit in? I was always afraid to admit that I "heart" him for fear of people thinking I'm obscene, negative, naughty, or rude. The guy is a trip. He makes me laugh so hard tears roll down my face as I driving to pick my kids up from school. He's charming, witty, full of opinions, doing the best he can in his personal life, and living his dream despite the criticism. He goes to a psychiatrist three times a week and practices Transcendental Meditation. All nudity and sexual hijinks aside, he's a pretty decent guy. Sex sells and the guy gets that. Society made the rules, not Howard.

Like Howard, I felt like I never fit in. I wanted to sit with the cool kids so bad. I wanted to be liked so I became a chameleon changing my colors for whomever I was around.

We can feel lost sometimes in a new job, new role (like mom, wife, stepmom, divorce, single parent,etc.) new neighborhood, new environment (like a party, off to college) and think where do I fit in? Check this out, you can find your way in a new space, being unapologetically you.

1. Surrender. Let go of the steering wheel and let The Divine take over. Doesn't that feel so good to let go of the control? Just saying the words "I surrender" just frees up so much space and tension. You do everything you can with what you have, where you are, and by being who you are. And then, surrender the rest to the Universe.

2. Stillness. Pick a time of the day that works best for you and ask yourself the same question St. Francis of Assisi asked God, “What will You have me do today, God?” Secondly, in that moment of stillness, he would thank God for giving him that very ability to serve others. Another prayer that works well is a prayer from A Course in Miracles, that says,

What would You have me do?
Where would You have me go?
What would You have me say, and to whom?

Tune in for the answers. Stay still long enough to hear them. Its a guaranteed downloadable to-do list straight from the Universe.

3. Show up. Write down the answers and take action. We get sidetracked with social media, bringing up old habits and news, future tripping, our vices, etc. 90% of everything is showing up. Just show up. Don't think about it, just get there and take it moment to moment.

By following these steps, you find your community and more importantly, you will be co`creating with the Universe just by being the beloved being of the Light It created you to be.

As always, let me know your thoughts below in the comments. Have you let go of control?

Love and Light,

Thursday, March 27, 2014

A Spiritual Guide to Overcoming a Fear of Flying

I am not the greatest flyer. Since I was a little girl, I would not go on roller coasters. I was the girl riding the carousel for the fifteenth time while the others I was with were experiencing thrills and fun with drops and twists on the roller coasters at the amusement park. Needless to say, flying hasn't been so good either.

I realize though if I want to experience all of God's goodies in life and to see the fruits of Mother Earth's labor, I need to step out of my comfort zone and into the unknown. So I face the fear of flying, which this fear can overlap most of our fears, as its a fear of the unknown and a fear of death.

Since reading Anita Moorjani's book, Dying to be Me, where she chronicles her near death experience (NDE) while suffering with cancer, my fear of death has changed. She "died" on a hospital bed from complications with cancer. But, as she details in her book, the moment when she passed away she experienced total bliss, a love, peace, and an intense feeling of warmth, a lightness, all with no fear whatsoever. It just sounds so amazing! Ms. Moorjani has lived to tell about her experience and it has brought millions of people comfort and peace as they navigate their lives.

So last week, I boarded a plane to Arizona armed with many tools from my spiritual toolbox. Here are my tips on how to navigate your way as you leave on a jet plane:

1. Face your fear. When we admit our fears, we take our control back and send the ego to the corner. As we embrace the fear, we bring light and love to the higher self and in the owning we refuse to let it tell us how to run our life. By facing your fears, you take back control.

2. Be present. The anticipation is the worst part. Weeks prior to my flights, I think about what could happen. Then, as I sit at the gate, I think about how much I don't want to get on that plane. In these instances, I center back in and remember to stay present in the moment. I am not on the plane yet, so worrying about it is a waste of time. So I do things that soothe me in the present moment - like loving on my kids, husband, dog, playing games, writing, hanging out with girlfriends. At the airport, I people watch aaannd to my husband's dismay, everyone is a friend so I engage in chit chat with strangers, as I find you can learn something from everyone. That's just the hungry student in me! Find what works for you to center back into the present moment. Focus on what is right in front of you. Let the future-tripping go. Enjoy what is going on in the Now.

3. Say prayers for the pilots and attendants serving the flight. As I board the plane, I touch the jet and imagine a white light surrounding it. I say a prayer to my guardian angels to keep the plane safe and carry it gently to its destination with ease. As I pass the pilot, I send him my prayers as this is his livelihood and what he enjoys doing as his career. I say hello and smile to all the flight attendants servicing our flight. I also pray for every person on the flight. I send them love and light that they get tot their destinations safely.

4. Stay distracted before the plane takes off. When I get to my seat, I get out a book or listen to music or chat with my travel partner about what we are gonna see and do. This gets me excited.

5. Prepare for takeoff. Deepak Chopra is the man! Chopra has a technique you can use as you are experiencing fear. He says, recall a time in your life where you felt overwhelming joy. This could be the birth of your child, getting the job you wanted, your wedding day. Visualize in your minds eye that feeling and let it consume your body. As the plane takes off, it is moving fairly quickly. Experience that exhilaration as you sail into the skies and match it with that mental recess you just visualized. Hold the thought and the feeling of love and happiness as you soar mentally and physically. This works like a charm!

6. Travel with crystals, sacred momentos, lucky charms and/or pictures. I wear a long necklace that has a stone of Archangel Ariel on it. She is the "lion of God" and is the angel of protection. I hold it with my thumb and forefinger and feel peace by her presence. Bring something with you that you love, which you brings joy and peace to your heart.

7. Breathe. When we are experiencing anxiety, we forget to breathe. As you inhale, fill the belly up and out, hold for three, and exhale as you draw your belly back towards you spine. This will instantly snap you back and calm your nerves.

8. Meditate with Mantras and Affirmations. As you are practicing your breathing, repeat mantras to yourself. You can use this one here or come up with one on your own. I used this last week: "I am safe. I am calm. All is well. I am exactly where I need to be. I look forward to all the joyous experiences that await me."

9. Enjoy the flight. For the most part, most flights are fairly smooth. Sit back and watch a movie. Read a book you are dying to get lost in. Look out the window and revel in the Universe's glory and vastness of Mother Earth. Turbulence may occur, you may feel a bump or two, but just as when you drive in your car and experience bumps, planes do too. It's the experience of any mode of transportation.

10. As the plane prepares for landing, use the same steps (4-7)listed above.

11. When the wheels touch down, celebrate! You are about to open yourself up to whole new set of experiences. Whether you are traveling for work or pleasure, you are about to take part in an exciting adventure! Traveling allows you to experience new things: new cultures, new scenery, new flavors, new relationships, rejuvenation, and cool adventures! Carpe diem! And you did it, you faced the fear and DID IT ANYWAY! WINNING!

I wanna hear your thoughts on traveling. Could you use these steps to face other fears? What works for you? Let me know in the comments. We can all learn from your voice and experiences!

Love and Light,

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Recovery is a Journey Back to the Soul

My latest essay is up on Cameron Diaz's website, Our Body Book. Her book is all about becoming yourself with recipes, workouts and good old fashion wisdom. Love her energy and spirit! Check it out!

Monday, March 3, 2014

Wide Awake Woman: Theresa Roth

Happy March! Happy Monday! Today I want to introduce you to another Wide Awake Woman. Meet Theresa Roth.

Theresa is the creative mind and creator behind SuperLoveTees. I am personally a big fan of Theresa's as I own two (and more to come) of her super soft, super inspirational tees. I love the fabric so much and the message behind each one. I found her site on Instagram and was immediately sold!! I am very inspired by her dedication to her life's work and her entrepreneurial skills. She has a heart of gold and a eye of amazing design to match!

1. Theresa, tell us about you:

My name is Theresa Roth and I am the owner and designer of SuperLoveTees. I have so much fun with it, and feel divinely led to create these inspiring tees and ship them around the World. It's a lot of hard work, but it feels like play most of the time. The positive energy of designing the graphics, and mixing the paints and hand screening each peace carries me along and then comes back to me when I see pics of our customers wearing and loving their tees.

2. Why did you start your own t-shirt business?

I started my t-shirt business with the intention to spread love and good vibes all around the world. My secondary reason was to be able to create a business that allowed me to quit my full time job, which I did in January 2014.

3. Was there ever a time in your life where you felt stuck and what did you do to pull yourself out? What was your wide awake moment?

I wouldn’t say that being stuck or feeling stuck is one of my sticky points. I have had a time where I felt like I didn’t know what to do or how to do it. Fortunately, I’ve come to learn that those feeling are temporary and if I’m present with the feelings, they always seem to give way to clear skies.

4. How do you deal with stress?

The day-to-day life of SuperLoveTees can be stressful. The reality of selling products that I make by hand is a lot of work. When I’m feeling stressed, the easiest way for me to let go of the stress is to look at what I’m doing and acknowledge that I’m doing the very best that I can do in any given moment.

5. How do you go from thinking with your heart rather than your head?

That all starts with intention and knowing that everything I do is a result of my heart filled intention to spread love. When times get tricky and/or my brain interferes with this process, I realize that I don’t need to have all of the answers right now and that everything is working for me, not against me.

6. What are some of your favorite quotes?

“Let go, be guided, expect miracles” (by Gabby Bernstein). Also, from A Course In Miracles, there is a mantra that soothes my soul: “love is all there is.”

7. What message can you leave us with today to carry us through the week?

One powerful message that I like to impart to people that ask me how to start their own business is to start where you are. Whether that means figuring out what your dream is or chasing the dream that you have already identified, start where you are and every day make progress towards achieving that dream. Over time you will be amazed at how far baby steps can take you.

She really is living a life leading with her heart -- it is so beautiful and inspiring.

And get this, guys... She is offering all Your Wide Awakening readers a 15% discount off ALL orders ALL MONTH LONG! That's right - the Discount Code WIDEAWAKE15 expires on March 30,2014! You gotta check out these shirts and sweatshirts! They are made of the highest quality fabrics and made with a whole lotta heart and soul. Check out to look around and place your order!

Love and Light,