“Human beings look separate because you see them walking about separately. But then we are so made that we can see only the present moment. If we could see the past, then of course it would look different. For there was a time when every man was part of his mother, and (earlier still) part of his father as well, and when they were part of his grandparents. If you could see humanity spread out in time, as God sees it, it would look like one single growing thing--rather like a very complicated tree. Every individual would appear connected with every other.”
― C.S. Lewis
We are expanding. We are uniting. We are making friends with people on the Internet.
I remember in 3rd grade signing up for a Pen Pal in Spain and hoping she would return my letter. I sent her a letter in fancy Holly Hobby stationary with a decorative envelope. I can remember writing in my most neatest cursive. Now, with the help of the internet and the famous hashtag, I can click on two buttons and meet a friend in Spain with the same interests as me and we can be friends! In moments!
In this first installment of a month-long blog series, we will discuss the differences between your false self and your True Self.
A way our True Self can get tricked up is thinking we are separate from one another. This idea of Separation versus Unity.
Can we agree that we were all conceived by a sperm meeting an egg? Can we agree that we all part of the same Universe? I remember witnessing Unity on September 11, the World came together to mourn, to help, to be a little kinder, to be more grateful that day. Sure, there may have been a handful of people that were not feeling this way. The choice is not to focus on them. The choice is to focus on that fact that We came together that day. We chose to be One.
As we grow up, we learn separation. Things like, "She has nicer clothes than me, a bigger house, and better legs. OR He is better at football than me or He gets more girls." OR " I can't believe she made that mistake!"
Which brings me to this story.
A few days ago, a writer from Connecticut wrote a blog post for Huffington Post about how she left her four year old daughter unattended in a bathtub (for about 2 minutes) to put her other child in the shower down the hall. As she finished up getting him settled, she heard her computer ping an incoming email. She chose to read it and then go in to check on her daughter. When she entered the bathroom, her daughters eyes were closed as she had fallen asleep. The mother's first reaction was "she's dead!" Moments later, her daughter awoke and the mother felt relief.
As I read the post, I knew she had a message to share with the world. Her message was to become more self-aware. I am pretty sure we are all guilty of checking our phones, talking to others, responding to an email, or being distracted while driving when our focus could be on the task at hand. I know I am!
As I read the comments below her post, people were saying some nasty stuff to her and how terrible a mother she is. I am fairly certain she shamed herself when she saw her babygirl in the tub. I hope she has forgiven herself because mistakes do happen, everyday.
This woman chose to be vulnerable and courageous by admitting her mistakes, flaws, and faults. As spiritual beings having a human experiences, we will fail, we will make mistakes, and we will have adversity. None of us are exempt from this. Yep, that's how we grow. We are unified in the fact that we do make mistakes and we do need Love. This mom made her mess her message. She chose to put herself out on a line to give us a strong reminder of how we can be so busy that we could make a terrible mistake.
Faith brings me to a place that her experience was no accident. She had to see that her distracted living could cost a life. It was a public service announcement to us all to gently remind us to stay in the moment, be present and more mindful. I admire her courage and grace.
Where can you witness your thoughts today where you might be acting more separate than unified? Without judging yourself, witness the thought, see it, let it float on by, and choose a better thought, a more forgiving thought, a less judging thought. We will have these thoughts everyday and some days will be better than others. It's simply okay. We are human.
I share this story in hopes that we can see how unified we really are. We are all soul brothers and sisters. Our experiences and gifts appear to make us different but we are all perfect souls walking around in human bodies. Some experiences can really hide our True Selves but each day its up to us to come back to what we already know, we just forgot. Each day its a chance to reawaken. The past is history. You are starting fresh today.
Today, I thank My Jenn-eration for sharing her story to remind us to stay present and allowing us to see that we are all human and we all mistakes. We are one.