Tuesday, September 10, 2013

We all want to feel safe and loved!

The reason why we are here is to give and receive love.

Our relationships are what give meaning to our lives.

The greatest love of all is your relationship to your Self, how you talk to Self, and how you nurture Self. And how we do that is by tuning in to our Self/Spirit by being reflective.

Meditation has been the buzz word as of late. I get that it can be difficult to start and in fact, mediation may not be the right fit for you.

Being reflective and listening to your Soul's needs can take on many different appearances. Some people need a long run, a soothing bath, a hike in the woods, journalling, ride on a boat, or playing their favorite musical instrument. Sitting in lotus position and hearing your thoughts might not be for you. Find what works so you can build a strong relationship with Self.

Once you feel like you have a strong relationship with yourSelf, then relationships can flourish. You will seek out relationships that compliment what you need. You many find that you are in relationships that no longer serve what you need because you are becoming more self aware through your reflective practices.

This is where speaking up and honoring your Soul's needs come into play.

Let's say you are struggling with one of your relationships. You have the conversation that your needs are not being met. You write down all the things you need to feel safe and loved. You express your needs. You feel vulnerable and let all your feelings out in the open. This gives the other person a way to see it from your perspective and can correct some of their behaviors to get the relationship back in its flow. This doesn't mean the other person needs to change who they are. But to continue a fulfilling relationship there needs to be a give and take.

One of two things can happen, the other person can see that you are hurt and longing for more from the relationship. They work on getting your needs met to continue the relationship. Or you keep expressing your needs and you are neither "seen" or "heard", it may be time to build courage to get your needs met in another relationship elsewhere.

To quote on my favorite spiritual mentors, Mastin Kipp,

"It’s the mark of a Master to share his or her feelings, rather than blaming someone else for not meeting the needs that were never expressed in the first place. It’s the mark of a Master who is strong enough to walk away from a broken and unfulfilled kind of love if his or her needs and emotions aren’t being seen. It’s the mark of a Master to be able to also meet the needs of their partner."

Are you being vulnerable and expressing what you want from your relationship?

So, today, try letting your loved ones know how you feel. What comes out of the conversation will be a true test as to where your relationship is heading.

The truth shall set you free. Are you feeling safe and loved?

Love and Light ALWAYS,

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